What often passes for
love is really attachment. People fall in attachment and mistake that for
falling in love because they are attracted to the grieving that follows.
In fact, worldly wisdom
insists that people grieve because they love deeply as if love really is
something that leads to pain.
But any form of love
that can lead to pain was never really love at all. It’s only a make-believe
substitute for love projected from a mind that mistakenly believes it has cut
itself off from true love.
No one falls in love, but it is possible to
rise in love out of the shallowness of attachment to false love.
There is no grieving in Love. When you find
yourself grieving, it can be resolved if you simply accept no thought that says
you are grieving because of love or because of anything other than mistaken
Unwillingness to have the cause of
grieving healed is due to mental defenses set up to protect this important ego
device which makes love fearful and fulfills the secret wish to keep the dream
of death alive.
Grieving is not a normal part of life. It’s what people think
they deserve, and so they seek it out through the particulars of their lives
and then use those particulars and their concept of love as justification for
the grieving that ensues.
This doesn’t mean that grieving is wrong or bad, or that anyone
is less spiritual if they find themselves grieving.
Grieving has an important purpose. It presents an opportunity to
heal what caused it, thus allowing you to reclaim the kind of love you are
truly worthy of.
All it takes is a little bit of willingness to stop agreeing
with thoughts that seem to justify grieving, especially when you find yourself
in the midst of grieving.