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No Grieving in Loving

What often passes for love is really attachment. People fall in attachment and mistake that for falling in love because they are attracted to the grieving that follows.

In fact, worldly wisdom insists that people grieve because they love deeply as if love really is something that leads to pain.

But any form of love that can lead to pain was never really love at all. It’s only a make-believe substitute for love projected from a mind that mistakenly believes it has cut itself off from true love.

No one falls in love, but it is possible to rise in love out of the shallowness of attachment to false love.

There is no grieving in Love. When you find yourself grieving, it can be resolved if you simply accept no thought that says you are grieving because of love or because of anything other than mistaken self-belief.

Unwillingness to have the cause of grieving healed is due to mental defenses set up to protect this important ego device which makes love fearful and fulfills the secret wish to keep the dream of death alive.

Grieving is not a normal part of life. It’s what people think they deserve, and so they seek it out through the particulars of their lives and then use those particulars and their concept of love as justification for the grieving that ensues.

This doesn’t mean that grieving is wrong or bad, or that anyone is less spiritual if they find themselves grieving.

Grieving has an important purpose. It presents an opportunity to heal what caused it, thus allowing you to reclaim the kind of love you are truly worthy of.

All it takes is a little bit of willingness to stop agreeing with thoughts that seem to justify grieving, especially when you find yourself in the midst of grieving.

Loving Guarantees Safety

Accepting that you must try to keep your children safe from harm is an effect of first accepting that loving thoughts cannot be trusted and that fearful thoughts are justified and true.

Trying to protect the invulnerable teaches them to be vulnerable, which sets them up for illusions of harming and being harmed.

How do you undo this dangerous thought programming?  Every time a fearful thought crosses your mind, remind yourself that you can have a loving thought instead.

If you are used to agreeing with fearful thoughts, this will feel emotionally painful, because pain is the effect of fear and fear is a device that’s meant to keep you in a state of defensiveness against knowing what’s really true. But just beneath the thin surface of pain and fear is an endless space of freedom and sense of safety that you may not have known for a long time.

As you accept that freedom and safety for yourself, your children will learn that they can trust loving thoughts and that allowing their thoughts to be loving guarantees their safety. In a universe that’s only reflecting thoughts, loving is far more powerful than any effort you can make toward keeping your children safe.

It’s not that you are capable of making any physical effort in the illusion, but agreeing with fearful thoughts is a huge effort because it takes an enormous amount of energy to deny your loving essence. This leads to you feeling worn out, overworked and burdened.

In contrast, allowing your thoughts to be loving takes no effort. Although going through the pain of fear may feel like an effort in the beginning, over time, loving proves to be effortless, uplifting and energizing.

None of this is saying that you should or shouldn’t try to keep your children physically safe. You don’t have any choice in that. Your actions are playing out automatically, leading to exactly the experiences you need to undo what causes a world of illusions that demonstrate a lack of safety in the first place.

P.S. The photo here is of my boy when he was two years old, learning how to work a machete. He was also fond of playing on the roof when he was four years old. He gave this mama many opportunities to undo fearful programming!

Cure to the Predatory Mind

Child predators are made from fear of what can happen to children, which is rooted in guilty self-belief.

The cure for child predators is awareness that your thoughts have the power that you give them to make images that report back to you that what you thought is the concrete truth.

Practically, how healing for the predatory mind works is when you find yourself thinking of child predators or any child being in danger, ask yourself “Is this thought loving?”

Note that a loving thought is equally loving to all. It doesn’t evaluate one person as a predator or another as a vulnerable. That’s because in love, everyone is innocent and incapable of harming or being harmed.

You don’t have to do anything to change an unloving thought to loving. All it takes is a little willingness to admit that you must have evaluated wrongly, and your mind is changed for you.

When you admit that you must have evaluated wrongly, you will get the feeling effect of the fearful thought that was projecting outward, which will be emotionally painful.

Embracing that kind of pain is what allows the change to occur in your mind, which protects your children better than any worldly method you can come up with.

Even embracing emotional pain doesn’t require that you do anything. You only have to admit that the pain is caused by an unloving thought instead of agreeing with thought that says the emotional pain is justified by something that’s actually true.

Don’t worry about what you will do in your dream to protect your children. The nature of dreaming is that it’s occurring automatically.

Your responsibility is only to recognize that it is a dream and all power over the events of your dream comes from the way you choose to have the images in the dream interpreted.

There’s plenty of talk about wanting to stop child predators, but most people are unwittingly multiplying predators and putting their children in danger.

Isn’t it time for a solution that actually works?

Communication Is An Inside Job

Communication is beyond words. It’s the way of demonstrating to your own mind that you are Divine and invulnerable to worldly effects.

Whenever you find yourself wanting communication it’s because you’re already projecting yourself as limited and vulnerable, whilst imagining that someone outside of you is responsible for your feeling separate.

People can feel you. When you think you are wanting communication, what you are really looking for is an argument because you are already in an argument with yourself.

Your kids and other people pick up on that, and unless they are looking for an argument like you, it’s going to look like they are avoiding you.

So, when you feel avoided, you can make a conscious choice to get that feeling effect instead of pursuing communication with a person. When you are willing to get that feeling effect, it demonstrates to your mind that you are willing to learn how to truly communicate even in the midst of perceiving that communication is lacking.

As you rediscover your ability to communicate truly, you will rejoice with every appearance of you wanting communication and not getting it, because of the opportunity it presents for demonstrating who you really are, and thereby allowing your mistaken self-belief to get corrected.

As you enjoy your ability to communicate more and more, your mind will become calm and clear as a result.

In the outer world, your kids and others will seem respond with willingness to communicate with you, without your insistence that they do.

Abundant Inspiration

That it takes money to live in the world is a concept that is totally irrelevant in reality. However, it’s common to continuously teach that concept to children so that it maintains its effectiveness in the world.

No one lives in the world. It’s the world that lives in and is supported by the imagination.

Just because you may be living through learned allegiance to the meaningless concept of money does not mean you are obligated to force that concept on children as if it’s a reality.

Freeing yourself from money prison and living from abundant inspiration begins with admitting to yourself that you must be mistaken whenever it appears to you that money is a real issue.

Money isn’t bad or wrong. It’s only a mental device that’s used to demonstrate how your self-belief makes you feel. Money has no meaning right now other than that which you are giving it in the form of thought projection.

The thought that it takes money to live in the world or to live comfortably is a projection of a fearful feeling that’s born of fearful self-belief. Some extrapolations of that thought include “it costs too much”, “I can’t afford it” and “I need to be more responsible with money”.

Healing the root of the problem, which is fearful self-belief, only takes willingness to feel the effect of fearful self-belief instead of teaching it, as if it’s actually true. In this way, the projecting gets cut off so that it doesn’t feed the underlying self-belief.

Don’t worry about your actions. They are coming automatically to reflect how your self-belief makes you feel. Keep choosing feeling over projecting (teaching yourself fearful concepts), and your children will learn from your example how to live from inspiration rather than from oppression.

Guilt or Innocence? It’s the only Choice

Guilt or Innocence? It's the only Choice

As a parent, if you are willing to get that your children only look to you to show them their innocence so that you could reclaim yours…

You will not find yourself trying to convince your children that they have done something wrong…. nor will you find yourself agreeing with them when they come up with the mad idea that they’ve done something wrong.

Instead, you will carefully choose to Deny truth to illusions of wrongdoing so that you can demonstrate that only innocence is possible, rather than habitually choosing to make illusions of wrongdoing true so that you can demonstrate that guilt is inescapable.


your only responsibility in this world is choosing between guilt or innocence. All worldly responsibilities and choices are being played out automatically and are only being propped up to distract you from taking responsibility for the only choice you can and do make from moment to moment.

No one gets out of making this important choice, and the common parental mind chooses the guilty alternative because of fear that if they choose innocence, their child will not learn their lesson. Such is the backwards thinking of the world, and it’s meant to keep the cause of perceiving guilty illusions hidden so that its effects can be multiplied forever.

Choosing innocence in the face of guilty appearances is how to reverse the thinking of the world and command miracles. It’s the only way to call forth the kind of healing that transforms ancient wounds into present love.

Whatever you find yourself perceiving is a benefit because it presents an opportunity to choose again.

What will you choose this time?


Parenting – Healthy Choices

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Did you know that when your kid gets a tummy ache and you blame it on food, your child learns (just like you did as a child) to accept that they are vulnerable to worldly effects?

You may be thinking that it would be irresponsible not to inform your kid what caused them to get a tummy ache because that’s how they learn to choose foods that are healthier for their bodies. But get this, just because you think the food caused the tummy ache doesn’t make it so.

In fact, just having the perception of a tummy ache indicates an unhealthy mind. The body cannot be healthy or unhealthy because it is a benign projection of the mind that dreams it.

Any world where it seems like there is a choice between different foods is a dream world manufactured in your mind and projected onto consciousness. While it’s utterly impossible for one dream figure (food) to have an effect on another dream figure (body), that you can make believe that food affects bodies and experience the effects of that belief is self-evident.

Real – Healthy Choices

Whilst the writer would agree that it’s good to know what causes your child to get a tummy ache so that you can help them make healthier choices, first you need to know what they are really capable of choosing. That your child (or anyone else) can make a choice about what food they eat is only an illusion of choice.

But there is one choice that everyone can and will learn to choose from within both waking and nighttime dreams that not only protects them from getting tummy aches but which will eventually awaken them from dreaming altogether.

Only in dreams are tummy aches possible. In reality, tummy aches and all other aches and pains are impossible. In fact, all dreaming is caused by the sense of being vulnerable to death, which is the effect of a mind that mistakenly took itself to be guilty of separating itself from reality.

That’s why all dreaming, including nighttime dreams, leads to death unless the dreamer wakes up before death occurs.  

If you want to help your child wake up from their dream of death, you will choose to deny that dream effects, like food can affect other dream effects, like their body. But if you wish to help your child continue progressing toward death, you will choose to hold worldly cause and effect as if it’s a reality.

There is no right or wrong choice, but the choice between life and death is the only choice you can and do make from moment to moment.

In time, you will choose life. Perhaps that time is now.

Heaven is Not a Dream

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I’ve heard several spiritual teachers attest to having entered Heaven, nirvana or eternal bliss whilst they still appear to be embodied.

But what they have really entered is a happier version of dreaming.

I get that these lovely people do believe they have found Heaven because happy dreaming stands in stark contrast to its opposite.

However, Heaven does not include the density that comes along with perceiving bodies and believing that they have made it to Heaven actually prevents them from taking it all the way by undoing the thought that causes bodies and the material world to occur at all.

Behind the idea of having entered Heaven whilst the body and world are still being made manifest is the secret belief in being unworthy of Heaven, and the secret wish to extend time and go through more cycles of birth and death.

Those who are drawn to such teachers also want to find Heaven whilst keeping the body sense because of their attraction to feeling unworthy of actual Heaven.

In fact, stopping at the happy dream and calling it Heaven is a call for punishment because happy dreaming eventually leads back to its opposite if the time spent in that phase is not used to undo the thought of separation.

Heaven is only available here and now

It’s true that Heaven is only available here and now, but if anyone is able to perceive you as embodied in this dream world, your mind is still being projected in consciousness, which is way, way off from Heaven.

My invitation to you is don’t stop! Keep undoing the guilty thought upon which our bodies and this world are made manifest, no matter how happy your dreaming appears to become.

Because no matter how happy the dream that includes birth and death seems to be, it’s meaningless compared to the ecstatic joy of having your mind restored to actual Heaven.

For God so Loved the World…?

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The most popular verse in the Bible, John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

This verse also, is the verse people use most often to make themselves feel guilty.

Most people take this verse to mean that God gave his separate son, Jesus as a sacrificial lamb for the rest of us sinners. This is the interpretation that humans at the time naturally took to be the correct interpretation because they did not have “eyes to see” or “ears to hear.”

Perhaps if one comma was omitted, and one word was added, it would help people understand the meaning of this verse, like this

“For God so loved the world that he gave to his only begotten Son…”

Still, there are a couple of terms that need to be defined to help with understanding the mystical meaning of this verse.

Firstly “the world” is not the world we are dreaming and taking to be reality. If God loves a world where his only Son comes to die, that hardly makes God loving. It makes God vengeful and scary. What kind of father would give death to his son?

Truly, God gave his only Son the real world, which is like God and like the Son he created in his image.

The world God gave to his only Son does not include death, disease, conflict or anything else that speaks to vengeance.

The world we perceive is not created by God, but made up by a mind that’s confused about its own identity.

Second, “only begotten Son.” God has only one Son, so who the heck do you think you are? The idea that Jesus is a separate Son that God created apart from you and me is just an excuse to find yourself guilty and hold yourself out as an image in a dying world.

Because you secretly and mistakenly believe that you separated yourself from God, you have chosen again and again to uphold this world as the one God created, thus keeping you in ignorance of the world that God actually created for you, and which world is your true inheritance.

To undo this world of sin and death, and accept your true inheritance takes believing in the God of Love instead of the false god of fear.

Are you open to this reinterpretation now? If so, you have already changed course and your mind is set in the direction of Reality.

If not, no worries. You are still on the path to Reality. Your path just includes some more guilty meandering in dreams of dis-ease and death, until you change your mind.

What is Enlightenment?

Enlightenment is not something that you become, it’s who you already are beneath layers of confusion. The experience of enlightenment is sustained conscious awareness of a Truth that exists before the illusion, irrespective of circumstance within the illusion – which is basically the absence of self-belief.

You are not separate from enlightenment, but every belief you uphold about who you think you are is creating mental noise that keeps your experience chaotic, heavy and serious.

Because each individual accumulates unique life experiences which have led to their present point of view, we are unwittingly led into the belief that this accumulation of life experience is who we are. Believing that we are this limited, separate self has us in constant self-assessment and conclusion about whether our behavior and choices are right or wrong, good or bad, loveable or unlovable.

We make the same assessments and conclusions about other people as well, and this consists of about 99% of the mental chatter that plays in the mind.

In order to find relief from the insane mind, many of us look to the world for self-improvement. When we encounter people who insist that there’s something wrong about us and that their method can make us right, we feel hopeful or doubtful as to whether their method will change us.

This is missing the point that there is no right and wrong in the first place. In reality, employing any method from this premise just creates more mental noise – the antithesis to enlightenment.

This is not to say that employing methods to invite enlightenment are right or wrong – but that no method is significant. Every method is meant for creative play – not as a means to an end.

When we get ‘serious’ about meditation, yoga, chanting, spiritual study, or any method, we are adding content to ‘who we think we are’ and creating a mental image of a person on a path to enlightenment.

Notwithstanding these mental projections, we are always being led toward the experience of enlightenment through the circumstances of our lives. In this way, even if we are not actively pursuing enlightenment, our life experience is constantly leading toward that experience.

Specifically, we travel through stages, or a series of experiences, until our accumulated beliefs cause so much suffering that we become willing to give them up. This ‘waking up’ is enlightenment. It can happen all of a sudden or incrementally over time.

Because awakening happens in the gaps between habitual mental commentary, everyone is Gifted with life circumstances that trigger minor to extreme shock and/or confusion – whatever is necessary to create those gaps.  Said Gifts, are invitations to question who we think we are and to recognize the Truth that exists before belief.

Everything perceived is a message, and while no perception needs to be analyzed unless one finds it entertaining to do so, every perception can expose self-beliefs which we can choose to re-create or un-create in the present moment.

If one merely trades one belief for another, nothing has been resolved, but this is still along the path toward enlightenment. Eventually, circumstances will arise to help dissolve the newly formed belief; and when physical death comes, the beliefs still being held in awareness will be presented as reality in the next lifetime.

While methods are valuable to condition the mind into a preferred state of awareness, ultimately, stillness of mind (experience of nothingness) is enlightenment – which ‘happens’ when every belief (including every method) has become irrelevant.